20 Top Tips To Turbo Boost Your Confidence   

Whether I coach individuals or businesses, one of the attributes people want more of in life is confidence. Imagine what else you could do and how much more you would achieve if you could turbo boost your confidence?

Well, now you can! Here are 20 top tips to really help you raise your confidence. Collated from 20 years experience in personal development, and including simple, proven strategies used by mega successful people the world over. Find the nuggets that if implemented would make the biggest difference for you and begin taking action today.

As always, I wish you success, and lots of fun giving your confidence a real turbo boost!

1.       Think about someone you know or that you admire who is confident, and act, talk and walk like him or her. Model their mannerisms and behaviour. If it works for them; it will work for you. Modelling is a brilliant, fun and very simple NLP technique designed to accelerate success. Remember, modelling is easy - not copying or mimicking - but much more subtle than that. Select a fabulous, confident role model today and begin trying their confidence on for size (who know's, it just might fit)!    

2.       Smile a lot more. That doesn’t mean putting a silly grin on your face! Smile when you walk down the street, when you meet people, and generally be happier even if you’re not feeling that way. In hypnosis, the therapist relaxes the clients body (close your eyes, breath deeply, become very sleepy, etc), why? Because whatever the body is doing, the mind follows suit. Put a real smile on your face, think happy thoughts, do positive things, and very soon you'll be feeling more confident.

3.       Learn from the past; don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s gone; it’s never coming back. Instead ask yourself, 'what can I learn from this', take note, and then move on. In other words, let the past exist where it belongs, in the past.

4.       Take care of you. Go see a favourite movie, read your favourite book or magazine, buy some new clothes, get your hair done, or treat yourself to something new. Taking care of you will make you feel better and will give your confidence a real boost.

5.       Are you prepared for situations? Are you prepared enough to meet any challenge that may come up? Are you prepared for that meeting, that presentation, that job interview, when you meet someone for the first time? If not, get to it.

6.       Play to your strengths. Know what you are good at and expose yourself to these opportunities all the time – because you’re good at it, you’ll enjoy it and have more confidence.

7.       Improve your weaknesses. Know and appreciate what these are and put a plan in place to improve them over time.

8.       Learn how to say no to people. Don’t be afraid, you’ve got nothing to be afraid of. Just watch the reaction on their face after you’ve said it the first time and there will be no going back.

9.       Be positive. Look on the 'can do' side of things rather than the 'can’t do'. You’ve accomplished lots in your life and you will accomplish lots more in the future.

10.   Be in charge of your thoughts at all times. What is a thought? It’s just a question that you’ve asked yourself and the thought is you’re answer. If you’re thinking negative thoughts, you’re probably asking a negative question. In NLP it's suggested if we're not getting the right results in life we should ask a different question, and I'll add that we should also make sure it's a better question. Change the questions to be more positive.

11.   Whenever you feel a negative thought coming, STOP, THINK, and ask yourself, 'is this really important in the grand scheme of things?' A lot of the time it isn’t. Many people in life major in minor things!

12.   Do you let the words of others affect you? Do you mind what they think of you? Remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It’s not what they say to you that’s the problem, but rather what you say to yourself after they have stopped talking that’s the problem. Ask yourself, 'how can I quieten this inner dialogue?'

13.   List the words that you use on a consistent basis when you feel let down or annoyed. People use different words to mean the same thing and depending upon the intensity of the word this will have an effect on your confidence. Instead of saying 'I’m enraged about this' say, 'I’m a little annoyed'. Make a substitute list for the words that you use. Make sure they are lower in intensity and then use them. You’ll be surprised with the results. Learning to 'turn the volume down' on the strength of words we use can make a massive difference to your confidence. Remember, strength doesn't always equal confidence. Subtlety and love can move mountains!

14.   At the end of each day list your achievements and successes throughout that day.

15.   Be appreciative of what you have to be thankful for in your life right now. Who do you love? Who loves you? Who do you help out? Do this every day. American billionaire personal development guru, Anthony Robbins uses this technique in something he call's his 'hour of power'. If he can take time to list all that he's grateful for in life every day, you can too!

16.   Every morning when you’re in the shower, play over in your head the events in the day as though they have already happened and they were a success. Visualize all of the meetings that you had, the people you talked to, the outcomes you enjoyed. Visualize success and confidence and it will be so. Known as Time Line Therapy, an NLP technique developed by Tad James, this simple 5-10 minute exercise creates empowering 'toward' goals - see yourself having a successful, confident day, and guess what you just might have one.

17.   Improve your body language. The way that you move your body has a massive impact on your confidence levels. Move your body assertively and walk with your head up, shoulders back and as though you’ve got somewhere very important to go. Feeling low in confidence? Change you body language.

18.   Emotion is created by motion. As in top tip 17, make sure you move around consistently. This creates energy and gets the blood pumping around you body – it makes you feel better and more confident.

19.   Learn to brag about yourself. Yes, you heard me! Talk about your achievements and successes more than you currently are. Being your own best advocate lets people know you approve of and feel confident about yourself, and that is as incredible attractive quality that will make other people gravitate towards you.

20.   And finally – any time that you are down just ask yourself, 'in 10 or 20 years time, will what I am worrying about really matter?'

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